All Apologies

I had the great pleasure of attending the IGDA Leadership Forum in San Francisco a few weeks back. It was great. There was a lot of interesting and informative presentations about leadership in the game industry. Especially interesting to me were the presentations of Scott Crabtree, Marc Merrill and Laura Fryer.

Managing Your Team with Brain Science

Scott Crabtree is the only presenter ever that got me to put away my laptop AND iPhone for his entire presentation. He even scented his handouts with a nice orange smell so we’d remember that smell is important to learning. Unfortunately for me, I was asked before the presentation to smell the handout and as he apologized for the odd request, he explained that he was weird. So now I will associate that orange smell with “Scott Crabtree is weird” forever.

But that pre-presentation apology was just the beginning of what would be an hour of apologizing that his brain science ideas were basically not “manly” enough. While he never stated that exact phrase, anything that was “warm and fuzzy” in his presentation was prefaced as such. And yet, he had the scientific proof to back up the idea of wafting the smell of fresh baked cookies through the office when investors toured it to get more favorable results.

Creating a Culture of Awesome

Marc Merrill, President of Riot Games, spoke about his culture of awesome at Riot. It did indeed sound awesome, but he apologized several times for the idealism in his culture during his presentation. Awesome needs no apologies, my friend.

Fiat Lux

Bold, Smart Management

Laura Fryer, on the other hand, had no apologies for her straightforward, yet idealistic approach to management. She spoke of really personal struggles. Still, she made the case for leadership as a truly noble cause and she didn’t apologize for any of her values.

It’s People!!

Leadership means nothing without the people. A few days ago I was having a conversation about the Netflix Culture Deck with a mentor of mine. He also apologized for appreciating the idealism embodied in some of the values. He, whom I admire precisely because he cares so much about the people who work for him.

My frustrated response to his apology was, “It isn’t idealistic at all. It’s Human.”

Valuing things like social interaction, good judgement, honesty, commitment and even the smell of delicious baked goods are what makes us people. What is truly crazy is that by making the aforementioned values  ”ideals” imply a strange conception that people are interchangeable automatons and are stripped of all humanity in the work place. An organization is made of people, like soylent green.

So leaders, stop apologizing, embrace your humanity and lead as a human! It isn’t idealism.

Found in the CNN comments at McCain aide: New York Times an ‘Obama advocacy organization’

NickNas – September 24th, 2008 12:42 pm ET

All you need to know about Republicans is something called reverse psychology. Everything they say about liberals is really what they think about themselves.

You liberals are all celebrities, yet Ronald and Arnold are their heros.
You liberals are so angry, yet the Republican Party is always turning to violence to solve their problems.
You liberals are so afraid, yet they are too afraid to let go of their guns.
You liberals want bigger government, yet they are the ones to expand the government.
You liberals want a free ride, yet they are the ones looking for corporate bailouts and government contracts for their businesses.
You liberals sin/have no morals, yet they sin/have no morals but it makes it OK since they ask for forgiveness. They don’t actually try to stop sinning though.
You liberals think the government should regulate everything, yet they are the ones who want the government to regulate what a woman should do with her own body.
You liberals are sexist, yet they made sexist comments about Hilary throughout her entire campaign.
You liberals want a messiah, yet Sarah Palin was sent from God.

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To add to this:

You liberals are a bunch of elitists, but the Republican Party is better than you.

I’m so tired of the hipocracy. The media is all LIBERAL!!! OMG LIBERALS are ruining the world!! Honestly, I don’t want this hate-filled, rascist, hypocritical “conservative” bullshit anymore. I’m starting to be convinced that the Republican Party really wants Fascism.

Comment by Jerry
September 18th, 2008 at 9:34 am

When are conservatives going to wake up to the real threat that exists against freedom and liberty in this country. It is the enemy within that Lincoln feared. It is Liberal terrorists, their political arm the Democratic Party, their propaganda machine the mainstream media, and their shock troops in Hollywood. If we wait much longer to recognize and engage this enemy within they will take down the country via assaults on energy production and GNP producing businesses, redistribution of wealth to their ingnorant morally bankrupt voting base, and beating down our weak GOP leadership into irrelavancy. The only thing I haven’t figured out is why they want to destroy their own country unless it is so they can rebuild it into something akin to the communism they miss so dearly where they will be the priveleged elite. It took us 30 years to wake up to Jihadists, the country won’t survive 30 more years of liberal assaults.

http://elections.foxnews.com/2008/09/18/palins-e-mail-hacked/

First, I’m glad this Jerry fellow isn’t my dad. Talk about paranoid. Second, Democrats are not communists. And third, Jerry, I know this will come a great surprise to you in your black and white world view, there are more out there than Republicans and Democrats. I don’t think Anonymous would take kindly to be labeled as Democrats. My guess they are more likely anarchists.

Yes, there are people who want to bring communism to the United States. Those people are not Democrats. I’m sorry Jerry, but you don’t have the monopoly on Capitalism. Have you forgot you’re party has been in power the last 8 years, Jerry?  Its your party, the Republicans, that is “morally bankrupt”. Your party’s ruinous policies have got us to this point.  Democrats don’t want to destroy the country, they want to make it better. And by make it better, they mean for everyone, not just white males.

Jerry, your paranoia is the enemy within you — and within your party. Please open your eyes. You certainly don’t have to vote Democrat, Jerry, but you should at least acknowledge the hipocracy within your own party.